PTSD Recovery Tip: Put In Place Some Boundaries!
Monday, June 25th, 2012 • PTSD Recovery Tips •
After trauma it’s normal to feel so raw that you just don’t have the energy to keep up healthy boundaries. Or maybe your trauma demolished the boundaries you had, or decimated your very perceptions of what boundaries are. In the aftermath of recovery it’s going to be necessary to rebuild them. Some quick tips:
- Decide what kind of boundaries are important to you: friends, family, colleagues, neighbors – physical, mental, emotional
- Recognize how the lack of boundaries is impacting your daily life: do you feel put upon, invaded, used, manipulated, overwhelmed by the actions and behaviors of others?
- Understand how this feeling(s) triggers you and causes you to react: isolation, anger, lashing out, hiding out, escaping
- Imagine how your life would change if you had appropriate boundaries: more serenity, calm, safety, control.
- Plan how to reinstate the boundaries that you desire: what will have to change in order for the boundaries to be installed – i.e. you’ll have to speak up, move out, find strength within, hold the line, demand change (in a nice way, or stronger if that’s what it takes).
Making choices and taking actions are the cornerstones of shifting yourself from powerless to powerful. By taking these steps slowly, gently and one at a time you develop strength and the ability to take care of and protect yourself. With those two qualities on hand you’ll be surprised by how much your healing journey can accomplish.